To Empathize
Empathy. It’s the first basic principle of counseling. And the most difficult. A counselor who is blind to his issues and who hasn’t grasped his problems and at least tried to work them out cannot put himself in other’s shoes. Even if he listens, he cannot hear. Chances are, his [...]
No Bully
When I was still in grade school, the class bully made an announcement, “I’m gonna take five steps. And Wherever I land, the girl is gonna get it.” I started trembling in my seat. I knew I was her target because she started by taking five steps from my table and now [...]
We Cannot Please Everybody
How many times do we allow ourselves to be ruled by the way we see ourselves, which is in part formed by how others say they perceive us. We strive to fulfill people’s expectations, to make ourselves over into the way they see us – to be all things to all people. In the [...]
Cooking Wine
I have always enjoyed watching cooking shows. Even if I do not actually cook. And years of this habit has borne fruit – I’ve pick up hundreds of tips and trivia that could probably qualify as a Game Ka Na Ba? contestant.
One of the instructions that professional chefs frequently mention is that if [...]